Honey Black Men Are Real

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Or are there problems with them and us meaning the black sister. I over heard a guy say I can't take black women no more because they are just to lazy and all they want his sex. Now I was standing in line with this dude I guess he thought I was spanish light skin sister but nevertheless I wanted to tell him a thing or too about him saying we're lazy and only have one thing on our minds. Sisters are the black men seeing all they can in us or are we meaning as a whole sending mix messages to them. One time a guy told me he'll only date white women because he found  black sisters like to stay mad all the time now I've heard that a lot but not all black women are mad could be we're sick of being tired you know what I mean. How do you all see this topic are our men really sick of the way they see us or is it our on making that they want out of standing by us...?

C

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I used to think that black men thought that when they got a white woman it was like a prize. But you see it so much nowadays that I can't put a finger on it. There are so many hard working black women out there that I can't believe a brother can't find a decent one. There's no easy answer to this one Miss C....sorry I can't help much here cause I just don't know.

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You did say what you thought that did matter.


C

[beverlygee]

  Woops,  i'm late. Black men in my opinion are fickle and don't know what they really want,  and i'm not saying ALL of the brothers are that way.  There are some who may hook up with a white woman simply because makes them look good, especially if they have a little $$$. I personally think that love has no color boundaries if it's genuine on both parts. 

[mistaken7]

I think it's all bs - at the end of the day it's hard to pinpoint the true issues and resolutions - each is case by case specific...whatever the excuses are, they know no color - i know some of the above women/men in all races - don't play. We forget about chemistry/respect/passion/loyalty/integrity - hey here's some check points - can you be yourself around this person - when he/she sees the true you, all your baggage/hang ups/scars exposed - are they still there or do they use that sh&$ as weapons against your psyche OR what about you? Will you hang in there for that someone or bail? And some Men are plain ol'babies don't really know what they want and can you blame them - vagina being literally thrown at them, some women are freggin relentless not caring if he is married or dating someone else - OR maybe they are greedy when it comes to women so much so they will eff with the trash as long as she looks good - cause it's simple? It is hard out here - hard to be vulnerable cause in the end, do we REALLY know who we are dealing with? I'm not in a good head space when it comes to Love and Relationships at this time (Thank God for my Parents theirs keeps the "faith/belief" somewhat lit) i have my perceptions - fantasies but it maybe just that fantasies and nothing more? I share this because that's what it is at this time - not to whine, ok?

[beverlygee]

PREACH SISTA!!!!! Wow Ms. T, i am compelled to say this on this here site and i'm not gonna be embarrassed about it; I am a born again virgin!! And very proud of it. As you said when you go looking for love you don't know who or what you're getting into, even if you are approached by what you might think is the one, could be hazardous to your mental and physical well being. Sorry for ranting, but i'm playin for keeps, which is to say my wall will remain up until The Most High God puts a "the one"in my pathway, He is a great source goodness and mercy and He will make the perfect choice for Me. So i'll continue to be patient. (whew)

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Nice ladies real nice thoughts are always a welcome someone might learn or 2.

C