Sharing A Moment Could Be Helpful 2 Others

[Admin]

But only if anyone wants to share their personal life feelings with the group.......Since I'm the Host I will go first and I hope I won't be the only one to let it all out ok here goes nothing.

I opened up some with one of the members about my personal life it's been good you know me I will let God do it all but sometimes my life issues can get in the way of my time like Bobby my wonderful guy and freind I had to take a look at our relationship because he has to move out of America and I didn't want too leave my job that will be another story but anywho I just felt that he should go and if it works out for us to be together then it will be but if not we still will have that great friendship. We are in our 40's so time isn't easy when your moving towards something higher we're not 20 anymore so I wanted him to go for his goals never mine about me he knows I can carry on and I will. Bobby will start his new life overseas by the end of this month he's getting his eggs all in a row with me helping him as much as I can. Evenings has always been for us if you notice I am hardly ever here when evening comes a calling LOL but now you just might see more of me at night he he. I am doing ok about it now at first I wasn't but now I am doing what's best for us both we both feel good about our decision.

Now my job which deals with fashion styling designing is making some changes in NY is moving it will still be in NY but further and it looks like I will be working from home that journey is why to costly and way to far. That has happen before but this time for myself and others at the job will be working the best way we can to get that pay check. So that has been my back pain in the you know what but I know God is in the making plan of things and he'll direct me to do the right thing but so far working from home is my best bet. Getting out designs printing out all I need to do will be fun I won't be as hands on with styling models for a photo shoot or working with women who need anew start in life but hey I am just grateful I can do more at home.

A family porblem is my oldest sister who didn't mine me sharing this is getting a divorce after 30 years of marrige she married young at 22 but she never thought she would be getting a divorce. I won't share what made her come to her decision but I will say she had to do what was best for her family and I think it was the right choice my sister and her soon to be ex gave it a try but it wasn't in the cards as they say. But dealing with that I mean I've known my brother in law almost as long as I can remember just a good guy a family man but time makes changes in some and sometimes it calls for a removal so the other party can move on. We've become a closer unit we've always been that way but somehow when something like this happens you just want to be there for that person and my sister knows she has me 100%.

So this past year has been up and down I was never been one to complain but I feel a lot better sharing this I mean there are still somethings I didn't reveal but I don't want you all to think you can't say nothing here if you needed too. At times a format like this one might be helpful but we need to open up more not just always leaving short messges or a smiley face don't get me wrong that could be just find but not all the time. Just express how you all are feeling at home or at work or what your facing health wise no we don't want to get into each others business I just don't want anyone to feel if I could only tell this or that who knows what might come out of that. It's all up to you all but we must get better at sharing things more stop being so shy and just let it Gooooooooooo !!!!!

Don't let Miss Candy aka Miss C be the only one in here to tell her story of ups and downs now.

Be well and much LOVE

C 

[Admin]

I can't believe that my message here got overlooked by every single one of you.

[beverlygee]

Oh C, i am so very sorry that i missed your personal thread, i thought i was responding to everything and everyone. So i am gonna respond to this post by strongly advising you to "let go and let God. " Your love for Bobby will be tested, but we're all going to be at some point in our lives. We have to go before the Most High while we're on our knees and totally surrender everything that's too great or complicated for us to handle. Your sister must do the same thing, whatever the circumstances are for letting go of 30 years, once she surrenders while on her knees the hurt in time will go away and a fresh new friendship will begin. Since my retirement i've been looking for a job that will allow me to work from home, i need to be in my own space and no stressful situations, if you're working from home wouldn't you be more creative with no distractions?

Before i close, i just want you and everyone who sees this response to know that i have to go before The Most High and petition him for the right words to express myself or to give an opinion on anything, it's not ever my intention to offend or upset anyone. 
If i'm expressing The Most High too often in a thread, i am not going to apologize because Jesus, my God/Jehova is REAL in my
life, and if i could i would fall on my knees and face to ultimately surrender all that way. So Candy surrender your burdens, fall on your face in prayer, and ask for Divine Order in all that you're going through.  Be Blessed!!   

[Deleted]

Okay Miss C I found this post. I never saw it on the home page and I usually only respond to what I see on the home page.

Anyway....I'm so sorry that your love is moving away. I've never been in a long distance relationship so I can't speak on that. But whatever you and Bobby have decided to do I'm hoping things will work out for you and him.

Personally I would love to work from home or as an independent. Whenever I decide to retire I might try doing home care where you have clients that you service in their homes. My cousin does that and she loves it. I'm hoping you will find this new venture fulfilling.

Your sister is fortunate to have you by her side. I'm praying that she will transition into singlehood with a new vision on life and much happiness. After being married that long the change probably will be a little difficult at first but with prayer I'm thinking she will be ok.

Prayer and trust in God will always get us on the right path with life decisions and changes. We just need to trust in him. I will be praying for you and your family and all others here at Maxwellstyle. Love and Peace and have a good weekend.

[monalisa]

Oh here's the message. Forgive us for getting you mad for not replying this message. I think these two amazing ladies said it all.
Long distance relationship is not easy as we think it is. You are lucky having by your side to talk to. I'm into it and communication is very important. I'm not a communicative person. And I have siblings and I never say anything about the relationship I have. And in terms of communicating him I choose very carefully because he only wants to hear good words.
Anyway goodluck gor both of you. First time is always zhe hardest and you two will get used it. Wishing you all the best.

[Admin]

Dear All

How do I start I guess by saying God is and always will be first in my life he's brought me this far by faith alone and he will be there forever in my place till time ends.

My dear Ladies the one reason I felt like pouring out my soul a little was to show if and when anyone of you needed too express your own personal thought you could do so, we are here to help each other in anyway we can but if this wasn't the way for you then it would be alright no stress just because we try to understand. I added this thread October 13th and when I saw no reaction I did feel like a big WOW when I've always helped so many some who are no longer apart of this group but also I kept on giving support when the ones who are still here didn't say a word it did take me back like I mention I am not one to open up about things in my own life but I just wanted to show more of me and what I've been dealing with in my personal life. In the end I SILL LOVE YOU LADIES God has my back and I now know you beautiful ladies do too THANK YOU All for your new found support.

And I know the ones who might have missed this it's okay because I will make it with my personal life and I will do what's in God's plan for me he will give me great things with new beginnings.

To show you all what my heart feel like this morning I want to share with you only for those who believe and for the ones who don't that's okay because God is good all the time.

Peace to us all...........Candy

[mistaken7]

I'm so happy you started this thread - sometimes we need a place to decompress. Again I do apologize for not reading this; but i honestly do not remember seeing it. You know we got you Amiga and can count on us.

[Shilo]

Lady C,

I agree with everything the ladies have said before me, they said everything I was thinking and all spoke with such love, support, encouragement, and wisdom. Lady C you've always been strong and grounded in faith, and rightfully so because you've been through alot, but I know when it comes to your relationship, supporting your sister/family through a divorce and your job, you are gonna come through and continue to be the amazing, strong, supportive and encouraging person you are(hug)

Shilo

[Shilo]

I also wanted to cosign and say that I also think it's a great idea to have this thread share thoughts/issues you might be going through

I do want mention that at the end of this week I'll be flying back home with the hubby for a month or so, that is if I can get things situated with my professors here far as exams/finals. Didn't want to seem like I disappeared on ya..haha Hopefully I'll be back before the holidays

Shilo

[lalonee5]

Keep your head up we are all apart of Gods body " beautiful" I pray for you ...You pray for me!!