LADIES ? WHERE ARE ALL THE GOOD MEN

[Admin]

Pay attention I ask where are all the good men ? are they dead gay or in jail ? where are they ?


Just look around ladies I live in NY men are everywhere all shapes and colors some fine and so not so fine some well read and well some not so well read. If they're to young then you should move on or baby mama drama something isn't right you can see the red flag get an older man he's ready for AARP or his grandchildren want to see him when you do or he still misses his ex wife or no longer wife. If he's in between then you have all thee above issues and then some, where is that strong man that loving man that man that took you by the hand and kissed you till you couldn't breath gave you roses took you dinner and sent you gifts when you didn't even expect it what happen ?


Yes men could say the same thing but this one is for the ladies Where Are The Good Men ?


Oh don't just peek and read it looking to see who can share this thread with what's going on with the men lately it just seems to be getting worst if you ask me.




From Speaking your mind thread........Candy aka C

[mistaken7]

LOL this is a great question/thread and i have no idea...if i did i would definitely let you all know!

1. i can share my "recent" experiences - I liked this guy and it seems as tho he liked me too, so against my better judgement invited him out bowling...which turned into a "group" thing. i thought to myself - how cool that way if we not feeling each other no pressure cause we're not alone - and so the whole night nothing - didn't really speak to me etc...so ok, he put me in the friend zone. (fine - i'm cool with this)

2. also, against my better judgement - there is this other guy, single dad, great job doing the most etc, he's funny so i thought meh, give him a shot - well he turned from nice funny guy to weird creepy "why aren't you talking to me" guy within the same week? i really do try to answer all my emails/texts/calls; but don't always get to everyone in a timely manner? not sure what happened - but it did scare me a bit tho...the amount of pressure he was placing on me regarding my whereabouts etc giving me the guilts for not doing what ever? YO WE NOT EVEN DATING, Really?!?!?! i admire the fact he knows what he wants; but i doubt he'll get it because he stifles the growth process...either way, now we're not even speaking.

all i ever want to do is meet a nice guy and enjoy getting to know each other...to me this is reasonable and realistic? maybe no? (42 - still learning - won't settle) 

[Admin]

SAD I KNOW.....My mom would tell me you can meet a nice guy at Church or The Library but now times have changed you can go there now and meet a nut job.

C

[Shilo]

@ms Mistaken, so true, NO ONE should ever settle, ESPEICALLY YOU! #BeautifulSoul

Lady C, I know that this is gonna sound cliche' BUT there are so many amazing single men out there, is just that you have to be in the right place to meet them. When my single girlfriends say they can't find anyone, my first question is 'what type of man are you looking for'? Of course they give me the basic, gotta have a job 'good heart, love family, love god, confident, protective ect ect ect. My next question is, "Do you want him to be a business man, doctor, sport guy ect. I then suggest(from my guy friends who are business men) that if they want a business man type, then go to 'Happy Hour' between 4-5 because that is when the good men come in straight after work to whine down with a beer or drink, they usually only stay the first hour of 'happy hour' because they know by 5:30 or 6:00 the 'ratchetness will start strolling in' hahahah If you want to meet a doctor, then go to one of your local hospitals MANY MANY charity/fundraising events that they host/sponsor. I see them there all the time with me being a therapist, the cute doctors come to support the hospitals' events. If ya want an artsy guy then go to some gallery openings, open mic nights, poetry readings ect.

TRUE there are some 'questionable men out there(as well as women) but the first thing you have to do is PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE because as the saying goes, Your Prince charming aint gonna come knocking on the door unless he happens to be the delivery/mailman..heheeh and aint nothing wrong with that either if he's single..hahaha

Shilo

[Admin]

Mmmmmmmmmmm SMH sigh have no words but I think I'll just let this one go Shilo it's a good point of view but a hard one for what's out here these days.

Sorry

[mistaken7]

All valid points and great ideas Ms. Shilo n Lady C - may i add you all are BeautifulSouls as well BIGHUG
it's tough out here - sometimes i bum out seeing couples all happy, hugging and loving on each other - naturally we all want this, yes?  But i pray constantly MOST HIGH GOD guide our steps and give us peace of mind - LOL  YOU KNOW WHAT this reminds me of Jill Scott's new song "Prepared"?  It's me in a nutshell well ton of Women in a nutshell i should say...so we can depend on each other also to get thru, perhapsperhapsperhaps?

[Admin]

The song is so tight that's JILL all the way live. Being single in the good book ( Bible ) is a blessing from the most high could be some are his without truly knowing it. I can live with being with ME thank God I can smiling.

C