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Post by Admin on Jan 29, 2014 8:09:48 GMT -4
First off Good Day to you all now the question here it goes I want you all to give a serious answer ok. Now what would you do if you found out that your sisters husband was cheating on her behind her back but you found out he brought the other woman to their bedroom not once but twice and it happen about 5 or 6 years ago but you couldn't tell her because you didn't want to see her hurt. So you held it in for all that time then you finally said something so how do you think the person that now knows would react to you true everyone reacts to things differently but it always still comes out the same though so please let me know your thoughts.
Thanks Ladies be waiting for your comments.
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Post by monalisa on Jan 29, 2014 9:07:10 GMT -4
First of all why cheating when they have a mouth to tell the husband/wife that they don't like him/her anymore. Why wait for 5-6 yrs? It makes the problem worst.. She'll be mad at you for not telling her that her husband is cheating at her. She will think that you connive with her husband, if you know what I mean. I just hate cheating...
Well it is my opinion only
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Post by mistaken7 on Jan 29, 2014 10:15:14 GMT -4
It would have pained me but i would have pulled my Sis to the side with all my facts then give her the info at the time of the occurrence - then allow her the opportunity to do with it as she would. Knowing me i wouldn't be around him anymore anyways - his life (around me) would be a subtle living hell - just saying. There is no need for infidelity none what so ever - that's why marriage is not for the meek or weak minded/hearted. This is unfortunate...a lot of relationships can be ruined...especially if he knows you told and she doesn't leave him...awkward.
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Post by Admin on Jan 29, 2014 10:51:01 GMT -4
Well ladies both points of views are noted but here's the thing Monalisa the guys is a CREEP the person was put under the gun not a real gun but put under a situation where she couldn't open her mouth and so the long time frame. But the sister blames her not for not telling her but she thinks she told her all that to hurt her when she knows her sister better then that I mean if it were me I would first tell my man a thing or too and then let my sister know I understood the situation this put her in since I know the guy is a CREEP anyway but to make her feel like they can't speak woman to woman on the matter that I don't think is right.
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Post by monalisa on Jan 29, 2014 17:37:58 GMT -4
hmmm alright but sometimes talking to woman I mean talking woman to woman is different when communicating to a man. I mean every word we said has a different meaning to a man, if you know what I mean..
if you say he is a creep then your saying being a creep is an excuse to a cheating? he doesn't want to listen the sister because he is guilty and doesn't want to hear the truth. well for sure truth hurts...
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Post by beverlygee on Jan 29, 2014 18:36:56 GMT -4
I have to agree with both Toni & Mona, but if it were me i would have to let her know that i have her best interest at heart and I'm not gonna look the other way. Then on the other hand, if she's in tune to him and really knows him, then she can figure it out by herself without anyone telling her a thing. In my opinion TRUST is an issue in all relationships, we've all been hurt and deceived a time or two in our life.
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Post by Admin on Jan 29, 2014 20:31:07 GMT -4
Ladies this man is hopeless he doesn't work and he's 56 years old I have a problem with him he's my cousins husband and her sister has caught hell she's told me so many things over time and it just sickens me to death how they are not speaking. My cousin is very close too me she doesn't need this I mean she's been disrespected by this man he's a jealous person a no good he's got them siding against each other and that's sad NO MAN or any person should come between your relative becuase if that doesn't workout guess who'll be there when he's gone. And no I don't think being a creep is a means of cheating he's just not a nice person at all. She's been married to this guy since "03" 11 long years of him not holding down a job causing problems in the home he won't fix a thing around the house he won't even take out the garbage I am not putting my business out here I told my cousin I have some amazing women here we have helped each other out in so many ways so she knows how far I will take this you see she lives with them as well and she's seen more then she should have she's not going to stay there much longer she just needed a place to stay till her job calls her back to work then she's out of there but it is what it is I can't make them whole till the other sister sees where that no good lies between her and her family. I've met him and I have to admit I've never cared for him much lord knows she could have done better but I don't have to live with them but I have been concern he's not a well minded man he's very odd his thinking is crazy off the wall I don't want nothing to happen to them I pray she will open her eyes but I still feel she shouldn't have but her sister on the side of wrong.
But thanks ladies for your opinions C
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Post by monalisa on Jan 30, 2014 6:51:47 GMT -4
sorry to hear that... sad but that's what life all about.. all you can do is respect them and watch from a far. it's their choice there's nothing we can do about that.
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Post by beverlygee on Jan 30, 2014 21:15:47 GMT -4
It is a sad situation, but i wouldn't allow anyone to cause friction between my family and i, and your cousin may have some sort of fear of her husband to let that happen and to put up with it for so long. I'm praying that it will all work out in Divine Order.
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Post by Admin on Jan 31, 2014 9:44:51 GMT -4
Thank you Bev I know he will.
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